How not to date the same girl. Again.

We've heard about them. We've seen them. Some days they poke us in the eye. That's how obvious they are. Red flags. 

I am at fault here too. You would think that having a PhD in Leadership and Change would make me privy to some insider knowledge about if someone I become interested in is really the "game that they talk". But I have no special skills. No MacGeyvor like tricks. No Dr. Reed Analytics. Actually, because of my belief in people and Change I'm actually more susceptible to believing in people.  We all do it. We want to believe that people are really good at heart. But let's face it. They aren't. That's the cold truth of it. People will say what they want you to hear. Over and over. And sometimes you might believe it because you see glimpses. Stars of hope. And you hold on to those. And they are stars. Shooting stars. Ones that come and go. You don't need that. You need a star that will stand there everyday. That won't just show up when it wants. That won't have a hollow mouth. A star who's actions shine brighter then the moon when it really matters most.  What are you being today? Are you come and go? Who are you seeking today, are they come and go? Decide when to let go of something that doesn't brighten your life everyday. Did you know the bigger and brighter a star gets the more it turns blue?  When you start loving someone again.....when you don't see the red flags and the words and action missed connection---make sure that star is a sparking blue. That's what you deserve. Someone to make you as blue as you are.

All the rest is just all talk.