Out with the old.

I think the end of the year is a perfect time to review ourselves as well as others that we've chosen to invite to our table. If there is anything I've learned over the past year, it's the value of love. Both how big, and how little it can be. It shows up in days of time. It shows up in phone calls. How can you measure love? In Daylights, in cups of coffee, sureeeee. But really? How do you measure the depth of someone's -love? A question I'm sure we often wonder about. Much like how do we measure happiness or success? Is success money, or living another day? To me, saying "I love you, I'm always going to love you, you're my person, or soul fire, or soulmate"---can be measured easily. It's in consistent actions. We can measure love in actions. It's as simple as that. When we show up-we show our truth of words. We measure love In texts. In checking up on our friends. In r spect. In phone calls. In reaching out during hardship. In quality time. In acts of kindness. In service. In consistency of actions. Can you say to others that you have showed up in those ways to support your words? Were your words just lip service that just served you temporarily? Did your actions show up when you no longer benefited?  Did your actions show up not just when it was convenient for you? If you feel as if you lacked some alignment of words and actions this year---take a chunk of time and draw a map out of three actions that might support what you are promising to another, whether lover or friend.  If you can't support the words that fall from your lips with three consistent actions---Don't say them. Keep them. Because most likely that other person really will believe you. Because good people were born that way. Born to believe that those around us will show up in the ways they promised....because that's what we'd do. We'd show up. Because we meant what we said.  If you can't be consistent---Check your words at the door, before you walk into someone's life and shake it up year after year. Be that good lover. Be that good friend. Hell, just be good. It's the least we can do to for each other. Just, be, good.  Being anything else just isn't enough.

Three squeezes.